Pinky McKay Newsletter
This newsletter is brought to you by Pinky McKay, International Board Certified
Lactation Consultant, certified infant massage instructor, mother of five and author
of 'Sleeping Like a Baby', 'Parenting By Heart' and '100 Ways to Calm the Crying'.
The hand that rocks the cradle!
Are you getting a little sick and tired of the commercialism surrounding mothers
day? Especially when it can seem that for the rest of the year - at least in the
day to day doings of mothering - the status of mothering seems very low.
Just to give ourselves a wee value boost, let's consider some meaning behind our
special day: Mother's day, as first conceived by Julia Ward Howe in 1872, was
a time to re-dedicate oneself to the task of world peace.
Howe said, " our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have taught
them of charity, mercy and patience. We, women of our country, will be too tender
to those of another country to allow our sons to be trained to injure others."
While Howe's sentiments are just as pertinent today, there are now many choices
around mothering and how - or how much - we do this. At a workshop I did a short
while ago, we were discussing the values each person wanted to impart to their
child. One woman had a lightbulb moment - "how can I model these values when I am
only with my child a couple of days a week?"
While our choices about how we parent are personal and will reflect our own personal
values, it is worth consciously taking time to think about what really matters and
how our choices will influence the values that we want to model for our little ones.
It is also worth remembering that we will never get this moment, this hour or this
year back - ever again.
So this mother's day, as you eat your chocolates - or cold toast - please spare
a thought for Julia Ward Howe's vision thatMother's day should be dedicated to world
While the superpowerful, unencumbered with children, blindly assume that mothers
spend their days sipping lattes or watching daytime television while their little
ones quietly amuse themselves, you are in fact, nurturing tomorrow's world: giving
sons and daughters healthy bodies, agile minds and compassionate spirits.
Because we value the lives of our children and children everywhere, who but mothers
can more effectively teach the next generation to care for each other and to care
for our planet. Because we are mothers we have a larger stake in the world!